Parenting Kids when Older
With people today considering 30s as the new 20s and 40s the new 30s, it does not surprise that marriage is no longer a priority for people under the age of 26 with most of these waiting until they are 30 to start having children. This mean that currently most children have older parents compared to earlier years where parents married at 19 and had kids by 20 where they then devoted their lives to raising them.
The changes occurring today do not warrant early marriages and a start ahead of time with family life. Millennial are forced to go to school for a minimum of four decades in the least. In fact going to grad school and attaining a doctorate degree in the world today has become a normal occurrence in some instances a necessity that must be achieved. With so much education being prioritized what happens to these millennial is that after completing school their major focus is on getting a great job that will allow them to foot their college loans. This can only mean that any thoughts on marriage come at a later stage.
However, for others the experience is different. Marrying an older man is also a common reality. With a husband 16 years older than her, a woman met and fell in love with her current husband when she was 21, moved in with him at 22, got married at 23 and had a child by 25. For her, the climbing up was nearly instantaneous. The guy was in the midst of finalizing a divorce and it looked like he’d lived a life before her but that didn’t prevent them from enjoying each other.
Having Been in two previous marriages, the 41 year-old husband hadn’t had any kids. The age gap hadn’t been a problem until the arrival of the son. Having been in different times, their parenting skills and technique were rather different. Being raised in another age, the husband will be overly hard on their own son. Whereas the spouse knows the great intent, she believes that he pushes too hard sometimes.
The couple’s son feels like the daddy is always teasing him and on his case all the time. The wife understands that the husband is trying to prove a point to the son but she feels that it misses the mark at times. She does not want the son to feel Unloved by the father because of this. The husband believes that the wife is somewhat too soft in their son although she’s not in agreement. While it is true that both parents have a major age gap, it’s these differences which bring out their finest parenting which makes it a healthy and balanced encounter.